“it’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.” – LR Knost
When someone is dealing with bullying, it can be challenging to spot the symptoms. This is especially true if a child is dealing with it.
The federal government has been collecting data on school bullying in America since 2005, and according to statistics reported by the National Center for Educational Statistics, in 2016, more than 1 out of every 5 students reported bullied.
Rates of bullying vary massively across studies, ranging from 9% to as high as 98%.
According to Pacer.org, the National Bullying Prevention Centre, who analyzed 80 studies for both bullying others and being bullied among students aged between 10 and 18 years old, the average stands at 35% for traditional bullying involvement and 15% for cyberbullying involvement.
The good news
There are specific phrases that kids say that show you that they’re getting bullied somewhere or feeling anxious or depressed. If you’ve ever experienced bullying or depression before, you probably understand how overwhelming it can be, so imagine how difficult it must be for children?
And again you know your children better than anybody, so you’ll know if things aren’t quite right, and that you might need to be having a conversation and I think it’s about asking the right questions at the right time and then asking again and asking a bit more…
It’s important to take bullying seriously and not just brush it off as something that kids have to “tough out.” The effects can be severe and affect kids’ sense of safety and self-worth. In severe cases, bullying has contributed to tragedies, such as suicides and school shootings.
This article will show you several expressions that kids can say that can be signs that your kids are getting bullied and what you should do to help them deal with bullying. You’ll discover all that and more, keep reading till the end…
10. What’s wrong with me?
It’s normal to feel doubt in oneself, but not constantly. If you notice that your child is continuously using the expression of what is wrong with me, you might want to look for other signs of mental illness relating to an anxiety disorder
9. My body is uncomfortable.
When it comes to their bodies, kids shouldn’t stress out about how they look, but if you notice that your child is continually complaining about their body, they might be suffering from physical and emotional anxiety.
This is a significant sign of a possible mental illness like social anxiety, or possibly another anxiety disorder.
8. Don’t make me go or do it.
If your child is continually telling you this phrase when it comes to certain events, they may be feeling nervous about it.
School is a perfect example; if your child is pleading with you not to make them go, it might be because of their classes.
7. I am sorry!
Apologizing when it’s necessary is polite, but when you notice your child apologizing too often, something might be off.
Overusing the word sorry means you may feel uncomfortable or fear or even stress for no particular reason or that you continuously are feeling insecure and nervous that you’ve done something wrong.
This is especially true for children who are taught at an early age that they get punished for bad behavior.
6. I want to stay at home.
If your child is suffering from social anxiety, they may ask if they can stay home.
The reason is that they prefer a known environment that is quiet; being in your comfort zone is one way to avoid triggering anxiety.
5. I don’t want to do it.
If you notice that your child is actively avoiding doing minimal interaction, they could be suffering from social anxiety and stress related to social interactions.
Kids may not know how to express this, so they complain that they don’t want to go.
4. Can we leave yet?
Going to a party why suffering from anxiety can be difficult for kids, they are usually forced to go and will immediately ask if they can all go back home due to the stress it brings on them.
Adults know better and will try and stick it out, but kids do not possess the strength to do that.
3. Please stay!
It’s normal for a child to be attached to his or her parent, but if you notice that your child asks you to keep up every time you need to leave, they might have separation anxiety and may experience stress because of it.
2. Keep the light on in the hallway
It’s one thing to be afraid of the dark, but it’s another to be fearful of having nightmares about it if your child already has a nightlight in their room and still asks you to keep the hallway light on they might be having sleep anxiety.
1. I’m too tired
Children have lots of energy and are constantly wanting to be outside doing something active.
If you notice that your child is responding with, I’m too tired, when you advise them to play it might be because they’re exhausted or are experiencing stress from anxiety-related issues. Going to school and trying to avoid bullies can be exhausting, especially if you know you’re still going to feel anxious when you get home.
Out of the certain phrases that kids say, this might be the most common. If your child tells you he or she doesn’t feel well, there is a good chance they don’t; this is why it is essential to watch for signs of depression a panic attack and more…
A lot of phrases that kids say could be a sign of school bullying, but they could also mean nothing, it’s essential to sit down with your child and find out what’s going on as parents you’re the first people they need to feel comfortable sharing emotions with.